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This is a very very important topic as at this point in society , we are swimming in a Narcissism Epidemic . There is a point in the connection of mother and child when the child is you and the mother is the child . When I held my children in front of a mirror , they thought my face was their face , my body was their body . The transition from Mother Child Bonded UNIT to Mother as separate from Child and vice versa , is being done in a schitzoid way these days , where the child might be left alone to sleep through the night , but then , strapped into a car seat that is similar to un weilding swaddled body in un weilding arms . This schitzoid normative does not allow for any inclusion of free will of either child or mother to co respond to each other , during the weaning of identity , one from the other . Add to that life saving rules , like " you can't cross the street you will get his by a car " at an age where the child IS capable of exploration at a bit of a distance from the mother , and it is rare when a child does not develop an alternate persona construct that deals with the rules of society and the nuclear family or single mother or school with managed deception . Rare for a human to remain honest in word and action with their spirit . The mirror state is important , and so is the individuation experience , but the lack of language or signs to assist in a calm and orderly "Birth" process , as it IS a birth of sorts , the birth of the self -- is not very usual in our first world mechanized society .

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